It’s hard to be happy or grow when your core relationship isn’t functioning properly – yet many couples find it difficult to stay connected and balanced for the long term. Relationship counselling can help you see things in a new light and find new ways forward.
You and your partner often have similar values and beliefs, which is one reason you became a couple in the first place. But the ways
you express those values and beliefs can be very different. This can lead to:
My role in counselling is to hold the middle line. I listen. I reflect to you what I observe. I may say what I heard, and check in with
you whether or not that was what you meant.
Each of us brings our life experience to our relationships. I help you explore how your different histories influence the way you behave, the way you respond to each other. And I ask whether the response serves anyone. If not, we look for alternative responses and actions which can serve better.
My approach to relationship counselling is eclectic. I’ll use different skills to match how you describe and see yourselves, as individuals and as a couple. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) encourages you to notice, accept and embrace without judgement, and is often an effective first step. We may explore your Values and whether your life and actions align.
We often work on areas of vulnerability for one or both partners. You may feel exposed or need comfort - know that my office is a safe space and you will always find empathy and support.
We practise compassion, for yourself and for your partner. I help you both understand how views of family and earlier experiences drive
actions within your current relationship. With new insights come new paths and ways forward.